A long time ago, I used to write book reviews for the Winnipeg Free Press. This is not a book review. (If you’d like a good review of this book, click here).
Instead, this is my attempt at deconstructing the reasons I sobbed so hard last night when I read the last chapter of When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi.
The book’s premise is well documented, so I’m not sharing any spoilers here. A respected neurosurgery resident is diagnosed with lung cancer. Eventually, he dies. In between the diagnosis and the dying, he lives. He continues his neurosurgery practice, has a baby with his wife and writes this beautiful book. His wife Lucy pens the last chapter, which is the point at which I cried uncontrollably last night lying in bed, in the cloak of darkness, with my own husband sleeping by my side.
It took me two days to read this book, as I consumed it in two furious sessions. This book is about answering a calling to go into health care. It is about epiphanies mid-residency about the humanity of health care. It is a conversation about what is the value of a life. It is about facing death, not unafraid, but with one’s eyes wide open. This book is mostly about living while one is dying. And it is a bittersweet reminder that we are all dying, my friends. Paul’s wife, Lucy, said it best:
Although these last few years have been wrenching and difficult – sometimes almost impossible – they have also been the most beautiful and profound of my life, requiring the daily act of holding life and death, joy and pain in balance and exploring new depths of gratitude.
I’ve marked up my own copy of this book, and plan to reference it when I speak to medical students in February about the experience of having a child with a disability, which also includes the common experiences of grief, humanity and gratitude. I want to pass all Paul’s wisdom on.
My hope for this little book is that it becomes required reading for all health professional students, similar to The Spirit Catches You. Dr. Paul Kalanithi then will live on and on through his words, through the students he inspires, through the patients he saved, through his own daughter and through this expression of his love.