I’m still in holiday mode, alternating between my bathrobe and my bikini, but here’s the good stuff from this week:
I absolutely adored the essay Notes from the Milk Cave by Sarah Menkedick, published in the Paris Review. This is writing to aspire to. Her beautifully crafted piece brought me right back 21 years ago, when I was sitting on my couch, nursing my newborn, pre-iPhone, with absolutely nothing to do except endlessly stare at his fuzzy little head. It is exceptional to find writing like this that transports you back into time.
Andrea Nair wrote this smart article about falling out of “like” with your child. She prescribes both empathy and practical advice – and yes, all you really need is love.
Motherhood & Disability
The title of Lisa Freidman’s piece is Our children aren’t broken – thoughts on how society treats disability. In it, she quotes a mother of a young adult with Down syndrome, who says: “How can I help or fix Katie? But Katie isn’t the one who needs to be fixed.” This is such a profound sentiment, and an important essay.
The Squeaky Wheelchair blog is filled with super writing and wisdom about life, and yes, disability. I like this post called: The doctor was right about me – in it is an important message for health professionals:
Hey, Doc! You were right. I never walked. My CP is as severe as you said. But that’s OK, because you being “right” doesn’t mean that my life lost its value. Please tell other parents that it’s OK if you are “right” too about things like walking and talking, because you never said it had to mean an unhappy life. And if you once thought it did, I hope you see now that you got that part wrong.
Finally, here’s the transcript of Lia Temblay’s insightful speech on Mother’s Day, called On Being Joe’s Mom.
Dr. Dennis Rosen wrote an essay for the New York Times Well Blog called, Seeing the child, not the disability. The title speaks for itself. I cannot tell you how much I agree with this sentiment. This is the secret to patient and family centred care: seeing the person first, and treating all people with respect and dignity.
Disturbing – Food
Yeah, my kid eats fast food sometimes, and here’s even more for me to feel guilty about.
Fun – Food
We had some friends who are vegan over for a lunch last week. I was scratching around the Internet to find good recipes. So many food websites take themselves waaaay too seriously. Thug Kitchen is profane, vegan, and is the first food blog that made me laugh out loud. And their potato salad f****** rocks.