his life was a good thing in this world

My dear friend’s son was born stillborn in Winnipeg many years ago.  If he had lived, he would have been 14 years old.  I wrote a piece for Chatelaine about supporting a grieving friend in 2002, called Put your hand in her hand.

I learned a lot about how to be a good friend:  including listening, showing up, and talking about her baby boy and using his name.  I also learned that I could provide no comfort that would take away her grief.  It was hers and hers alone to navigate.

I have never experienced a pregnancy loss.  I do know that miscarriages and babies born still happen a lot, but it is rarely spoken about.

The Global Alliance to Prevent Prematurity and Stillbirth has created a beautiful and sad video, with parents sharing their thoughts about losing a baby.  I wish that all health professionals who work with expectant mothers would watch this, and that it is shared with parents who are grieving a baby, so they know that they are not alone.   Born in Silence offers a powerful perspective from mothers and fathers who have experienced the death of their baby.

“His life was a good thing in this world.”

One thought on “his life was a good thing in this world

  1. Tara says:

    I’m sharing this with two friends who’ve gone through this, Sue. Thanks for the opportunity to tell them I remember their babies.

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